Lube is an absolute non-negotiable during anal play. Why? The anus doesn’t naturally lubricate in the same way a vagina does, making the need for extra glide not only preferable, but mandatory. And that’s where anal lubricant comes in.
“Using lube is a key prep step to make sure your experience is comfortable and (most importantly) pleasurable,” says Alicia Sinclair, a certified sex educator and CEO of the butt play speciality company, b-Vibe. Also: lubeless anal sex can cause micro-tears to the skin and anus, leading to infection. Yeah, hard pass.
When starting with anal play, the wetter the better. Sinclair suggests massaging the anus with lube beforehand to warm things up. And when you do penetrate with plugs or anal beads, “insert at a 45-degree angle, to avoid what I call the ‘squeegee effect,’” – aka all the lube getting squeezed back out.
If you’re not using toys and don’t need protection during anal sex, silicone, oil/water hybrids and oil-based lubes are good go-tos. They generally have a thicker consistency and stay in place longer. However, if you’re using condoms or silicone anal toys, water-based lubes are the best choice – as silicone- and oil-based options may cause corrosion and breakage.
Here are six of the best anal lubes out there:
1/ Coconut Oil
Coconut oil is a great choice for anal, especially for anyone looking for a safe, all-natural lube option. Unlike baby oil or Vaseline, which will dry out and irritate the anal tissue, coconut oil will stay smooth. Just remember, this one isn’t safe with latex condoms. Try Crede Oils Organic Coconut Oil. For a cheaper alternative, try Lifestyle Food Odourless Coconut Oil.
2/ Pjur Back Door Anal Desensitising Silicone Glide
An anal play newbie? This lube is made with jojoba extract, which naturally relaxes the sphincter to make anal play less painful without any numbing agents. It also provides soothing moisture to make the skin soft and smooth.
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3/ H2O Anal Original Water-Based Lubricant
System JO is known for its silky texture and staying power. Some anal lubes can get thick and gross, but this one will never let you down. This water-based lube is thicker than most, giving you extra comfort during anal. It’s safe with condoms and great for all skin types.
4/ AstroGlide X Silicone Based Lubricant
This lube is tried and true for anal play. It stays in place – even in water – which means it’s a good choice for anal play in the shower. The formula is very gentle and non-irritating to the skin. Astroglide is water-based, condom compatible and super slippery.
5/ Almond Oil
Almond oil has a lovely, nutty scent that is ideal for the health, well, nuts out there. It’s completely body-safe – just be sure you’re purchasing 100 percent all-natural almond oil. This one isn’t compatible with latex condoms.
6/ Pjur Backdoor Aqua Anal Lubricant
This thick, water-based lube is built to last. No matter how rough your anal delights, this lube will stay in place without getting goopy. A few drops is all you need for forever-anal. I’m not kidding, it’s kind of crazy.
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