These Tips From Successful Women Are Just What You Need To Hear

by | Sep 13, 2018 | Life

Ever wondered how your life ended up so far off track from how you’d planned? At this year’s FNB Business Women’s Breakfast, three successful women shared how they overcame hardship and self-doubt to achieve success against the odds. These are their top tips.

1/ Success doesn’t happen overnight. And that’s a good thing.

TV presenter Leanne Manas didn’t just fall into her dream job. She started at the bottom and worked hard, over several years, to earn the recognition and experience that would get her to the next step. But although success didn’t come easily, she’s grateful for all the lessons she learnt along the way. “Nothing should happen fast,” she says. “It’s the journey along the way that makes it worthwhile.”

2/ Don’t try to be someone else – you are enough.

As women, we tend to spend a lot of time comparing ourselves to other people – the other moms in the school Whatsapp group who seem to have all the time in the world to do lift clubs and pack perfect lunches, the woman in the front row of your Pilates class with the crop-top and perfect abs, your sister/cousin/friend who seems to have a new car every six months. But while having role models can be inspiring, trying to emulate them too closely can have the opposite effect – making you feel like your own achievements aren’t enough. “I don’t expect you to be one of those great people like Mandela or Oprah,” says Manas. “I expect you to be you.”

3/ Allow yourself to fail.

Failure is a scary prospect – but it’s also part of life. “You only become good at something if you allow yourself to fail,” says Manas. “Because that makes you stronger and that’s what makes you succeed at what you set out to do.”

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4/ Your support network is everything.

Doing the most, by yourself, shows that you’re a strong, capable woman who can handle anything, right? Wrong. It’s just a fast-track to burn-out. “Our ecosystem as women is very important,” says Dr Judy Dlamini, a medical doctor, successful businesswoman, entrepreneur, author and philanthropist who will take up the position of chancellor at Wits University later this year. “I couldn’t have achieved what I have without the support of those around me.”

“The people who matter most are there with you,” agrees Manas, speaking about how willing we often are to give our time to strangers and acquaintances, but at home with our loved ones, we’re preoccupied with chores, to-do lists or just our cell phones. “We need to look up,” she says.

But, apart from family, Dlamini also spoke about the other unsung heroes in life. “Part of our ecosystem is our domestic workers,” she says. “Let’s celebrate them and support their kids. Their kids should have a better life because they were part of ours.”

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5/ Surround yourself with positivity.

Early on in her career, Manas had an encounter with a female boss who told her she didn’t have what it took to make it in broadcasting. It was one of those pivotal moments in a young woman’s life that has the potential to derail her dreams and confidence. Fortunately, Manas had a supportive family who backed her as she went on to succeed in the field, regardless. But the lesson she took from the encounter was that women need to support their fellow woman. “We have to lift each other up, ladies, we must not bring each other down,” she says. “Surround yourself with people who care about you and lifting you to your dreams.”

Winemaker Ntsiki Biyela, owner of Aslina Wines, also had a pivotal encounter early in life. “When I told my grandmother I was going to study a four-year degree, she cried. She cried because she didn’t how I was going to do it,” she says. Biyela had grown up in a tiny village where university degrees were pipe dreams. “But she didn’t tell me that. She said, ‘You will do it.'” It took determination, sacrifice and many tears, but Biyela got her degree and went on to become SA’s first black woman winemaker.

6/ It’s ok to defer your dreams, but don’t abandon them.

Dlamini dreamed big from a young age – she had her eye on the red academic gown of a doctoral graduate. “I noticed there were many people with black gowns, but only a few with red. I wanted to be one of the few,” she recalls. But life had some obstacles for her to overcome first and the dream became long term. Ultimately, though, she got her red gown. “It’s ok to defer dreams, but don’t cut them,” she says. “Pursue them when time allows you to.”

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7/ Don’t be afraid to take the scenic route to your goal.

So how did a young woman from a tiny village afford a degree? “I didn’t get a bursary,” recalls Biyela. “So I got a job as a domestic worker. I thought, I’m going to earn money, save it and I’m going to study.” Of course, degrees don’t come cheap, but fortunately for Biyela, her employer offered to help fund her education – and she did, eventually, get that bursary. But she would never have found those opportunities had she not been willing to sacrifice. “Don’t be afraid to change position,” she says.

8/Demand your worth.

Ever felt like you were overworked and underpaid? If you really believe that to be the case, say something about it. “Women will accept whatever we are paid,” says Dlamini. “Men will challenge it – even if they know they don’t deserve it. Let’s own our worth.”

12/ You’ll never get what you don’t ask for.

Whether it’s a salary increase or help with a hectic workload, don’t shy away from asking for what you need. When Biyela finally got her bursary, it was to study winemaking at Stellenbosch University. It meant leaving behind all that was familiar and moving to a new town, with a new culture to study in a language – Afrikaans – that she didn’t speak at all. Early in her first year, she realised that she was on track to fail. So she went to the student counseling service for assistance and, between their support and that of her tutors, she passed her degree. “Unless you ask, you will never get assistance,” she says. “Just ask.”

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