Like, your vibrator can give you an STD…
At WH we love our vaginas! In the office we’re not ashamed of all the positive and negative aspects of owning one – and you know there are.
Our anatomy even baffles us half the time, which is exactly why we’re here to educate and empower you about your – snatch, vulva, punani, koekie… and quite frankly whatever you call it isn’t the point. We love our bodies and we love getting to know them better, so we’re owning it (#weloveourvagina) and so should you.
Here are all the things you probably never learnt during high school sex ed…
Q. Can my Rabbit give me an STI?
If you’ve had an STI before, then yes, you can get it again from your vibrator, says sex educator Kate McCombs. “Toys made from porous material can harbour infections. Choose silicone, glass or stainless steel and clean them in soap and hot water.” Non electric silicone ones can even go in the dishwasher. Just watch out for who unloads it.
Q. Squirting – genetic trait or learnt skill?
Learnt skill. “All women have the anatomy to squirt,” says Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-spot. “Find the G-spot by placing a finger in your vagina and pushing up. It feels like the need to pee – bypass it with deep breaths. With practise, it will come.” Pun intended.
READ MORE: “Can Sex Really Stretch Out My Vagina?”
Q. Can his cold sore give me genital herpes?
In a nutshell: yes. According to Dr Elna Rudolph, clinical head of MySexualHealth.co.za, the notion that HSV-1 is an oral infection and HSV-2 a genital one is no longer true. “You can get ‘cold sores’ on your genitals and genital herpes on your lips. If he’s ever had a fever blister, he can give you genital herpes – the chance is slim though.” In SA, 80 percent of the population have HSV-1 in their mouths, leaving a very small minority that can safely have oral sex. Cold sores on your coochie? Not ideal.
Q. Could I become vibrator-dependent?
Afraid so, says Rudolph. “If your brain gets used to reaching orgasm in a specific way, it becomes a learnt behaviour and deviating from that is difficult.” Turn off to get turned on: try a bunch of ways to keep your clitoris (and brain) sensitive to all kinds of stimulation.