There are orgasms, and then there are hold-it-right-there, don’t-stop, floating-on-a-cloud orgasms. When you’re aiming for the latter, we know they can seem elusive — or even downright impossible — to achieve. But we’ve got you covered with 10 science-backed ways to have better orgasms tonight.
Consider this your cheat sheet for crazy-good climaxes.
Get More Oxytocin
Oxytocin – also known as the “love hormone” — might be the key to better orgasms, according to a new study in the journal Hormones and Behavior. The study found that couples who received oxytocin in a nasal spray had more intense orgasms than couples who took a placebo. Since you’re unlikely to have an oxytocin nasal spray lying around, try giving yourself the same jolt of the hormone naturally by hugging, cuddling, or making other gestures to show your love to your partner. Your sex life will thank you.
Focus On Foreplay
You wouldn’t run a race without warming up first, would you? For an amazing bedroom finish, it’s no different. Choosing the right kind of foreplay can make all the difference. In research compiled by the American Sociological Review, women increased their chances of orgasm by 18 percent if they stimulated themselves by hand, or by nine percent if they received oral sex.
You might want to consider lube as a necessity rather than just an added bonus. In one survey, a full 50 percent of people said that it was easier to orgasm if they used lube. We suggest you stock your nightstand accordingly.
Your chances of climaxing with a partner will be much higher once you’ve already figured out how to do it by yourself (hello, masturbation). Experiment with a solo session to find out exactly what pushes you over the edge. The better you know your own body, the better your orgasms will be.
Ever heard that good things come to those who wait? A recent study in the Journal of Sex Research found that when you bring yourself close to climax and then stop, you build up a way bigger, more intense orgasm. It may sound counterintuitive, but wait until you’re about 90 percent of the way there and then pause, slow down, and build yourself back up. Repeat until you can’t take it anymore. The eventual orgasm will be so worth the wait.
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Focus On Your C-Spot
One of the major reasons women have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse is because they aren’t getting enough clitoral contact.
Get the Right Gear
Sometimes a mind-blowing orgasm is just one battery-operated gadget away. Use them solo or with your partner for an even more explosive finish.
Certain foods, like oatmeal and peaches, can boost your libido, getting you even closer to the finish line.
Do Your Kegels
Experts swear that strong pelvic floor muscles are the key to stronger orgasms… now that’s a good reason to do your kegels. Luckily, this is one workout you can do anywhere, anytime.
Staying fit won’t just make you more confident about yourself in the sack: Regular exercisers report being more sexually satisfied, according to a 2007 study from the University of Cincinnati.
This article was originally published on www.womenshealthmag.com