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Things just ticking along in the bedroom department? Try these fresh, pleasure-boosting moves to get four different orgasms and prepare to be O-mazed…
You’ve got to love routines. They get you out of the house in the morning or into the gym at the end of the day. But relying on a routine to get off in bed? Not so sweet. Here’s why: there’s more than one blissed-out, body-tingling way to a happy ending and the more paths you travel, the more exciting sex will be (and stay). According to a study published in the journal NeuroQuantology, women have four distinct routes to climaxing (through clitoral, G-spot, vaginal or multiple orgasms). You should try all four different orgasms – starting tonight.
Clitoral Orgasm
You know the external sweet spot is highly sensitive, thanks to the 8000 nerve endings that congregate there. And if you’re like most women, it’s the go-to point of stimulation to send you over the edge. But according to Dr Elna Rudolph, WH sexpert and clinical head of MySexualHealth.co.za, the nerve that supplies the clitoris also supplies the rest of the vulva, the area around the vaginal opening called the vestibulum, the perineum and regions around the anus. “Stimulating these areas activates the same area in the brain and indirectly stimulates the extremely dense nerve endings of the clitoris,” says Rudolph. This builds up the anticipation, which can make the orgasm so much more intense than going for gold straight away.
Techniques to try:
Let him explore and stimulate every inch of your genitals with his fingers and mouth, working towards the clitoris, but avoiding it initially, and then finishing off with just the right amount of sweet-spot stimulation. “He can do this as foreplay or while you’re in a spooning position during intercourse. If you feel like switching to oral, have him approach your clitoris indirectly by lying perpendicular to you,” says Rudolph.
Increase your chances:
Try having him use a finger vibrator like the Spunky Bunny Finger Vibrator (R674, Matildas.co.za). The more vocal you are about the speed, intensity and pressure you prefer, the better the end result will be.
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Vaginal Orgasm
Experts say a vaginal orgasm is the most powerful finale (it can be twice as strong and intense as a clitoral or G-spot orgasm is on its own). A vaginal orgasm entails direct and indirect (through pulling on the genital structures) stimulation of the clitoris. Thrusting, for instance, pulls on the labia minora, which are attached to the clitoral hood and stimulate the clitoris indirectly. “There is almost no sensation in the vagina, so the orgasm has to come from somewhere else,” says Rudolph. For about one percent of women, the cervix is an erogenous zone, so deep thrusting can stimulate the cervix and move you towards orgasm. Sound like a clitoral orgasm? It’s not. “An orgasm experienced this way is different from a normal clitoral orgasm because the pelvic floor muscles contract around the penis, which makes the sensations more intense,” says Rudolph. This could be further enhanced through stimulation of the G-spot and cervix.
Techniques to try:
The girl-on-top position is popular for a reason – it’s perfect for the double-whammy finish. But you can also try sitting on your partner’s lap while facing away from him (he can stimulate your clitoris while you control the thrusting). Or, for a twist on missionary, have your guy inch his body up so your hips are aligned, and tilt your pelvis upward so that the base of his penis is on your clitoris but the rest of him is inside you, so he’s grinding against your pelvic bone.
Increase your chances:
Ensure you’re raring to go before penetration. Go full throttle with foreplay – lots of kissing, touching, licking and massaging all over your bodies – and if you feel your enthusiasm waning during intercourse, go back to the heavy petting.
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G-Spot Orgasm
Though there is still some debate as to whether the G-spot exists, 30 percent of women claim they can achieve a big O from having the famous erogenous zone stimulated through penetration alone.
Techniques to try:
First, locate the hot zone. On a solo night, explore the front wall of your vagina with your finger until you feel an area that’s rippled and spongy in texture (about a third of the way into the vagina). Touching it directly should feel pretty damn good. The G-spot is very close to the vaginal opening and aiming penetration at it is extremely difficult, says Rudolph. “It shouldn’t be poked, but stroked, which is best done by inserting your index finger into the vagina and making a ‘come hither’ movement.” As with any form of penetration, there will be some stroking of the G-spot, which may add to some women’s ability to orgasm.
Increase your chances:
Achieving a G-spot orgasm is more likely the longer the sex lasts, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Aim for about 15 minutes and, once you’re close, stick to that position. A warming lubricant can also help; try Lust Glide and Ride Warming Lube (R228, Passionfruit.co.za), a latex-friendly, water-soluble lubricant.
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Multiple Orgasms
To be clear, multiple orgasms happen one right after the next, not at different times in one session (although those are great too). Studies show that multiple orgasms are possible for some women if they can withstand being continuously stimulated after their first (and second and…) climax.
Techniques to try:
Starting during foreplay, have your guy get you to your first clitoral climax using his hands, mouth or a vibrator. Immediately afterwards, he should continue to stimulate your C-spot in a slower manner for about 30 seconds, then resume a normal pace to get you to a repeat performance. “The trick is not to fall completely, but rather maintain a level of arousal after the first orgasm,” says Rudolph. From there, begin intercourse, which can lead to multiple G-spot or vaginal orgasms, using the same technique of slowing down and speeding up, as long as you keep the stimulation going and your arousal high.
Increase your chances:
If you’re feeling too sensitive, ask him to continue stroking your clitoris over a buffer, like a soft silk camisole or panties, or have him switch his focus to your breasts and nipples. Touching these after climax can push some women to yet another O. (A nipplegasm? Definitely nothing routine about that.)
Want to introduce some sex toys into your bedroom play? Read These Are The 5 Couples’ Toys You Need Right Now and 16 Vibrators That Will Totally Change Your Sex Life.
