How Nina Masango “realised that not only thin women can let loose” – in her own words…
“My first ideas about romance, love and sex came from movies and ill-informed discussions with friends. Sex was always made to seem intense: these beautiful, thin women having orgasmic sessions in bed, wearing lingerie that fitted their bodies perfectly. And then there was me. Never mind lingerie, I didn’t even wear jeans until after I left university because, unlike other women, I couldn’t find a pair that both covered my bum and fitted me properly.
“I Paid A Dentist To Wire My Jaw Shut…”
“I guess my weight issues began when I started to notice boys. For me, they made better friends than they did boyfriends. Why on earth would they find me attractive if I didn’t think I was? Some guys would say, ‘Iyhoo, upakile maan’ (nice big ass), and I’d laugh it off as if it wasn’t getting to me. But it did.
“When I eventually started dating, I was already on a roller coaster ride with my weight. I went to all sorts of lengths to drop kilos. I even paid a dentist to wire my jaw shut. The idea was to restrict my diet to liquids only. I wouldn’t even need willpower; it would be physically impossible to eat anything. He agreed, but he didn’t do it successfully because after a few days the pain was so unbearable I was forced to remove the wires. I know, madness! I spent my twenties losing and then regaining 20kg.
The Yo-Yo Effect
“Once I lost the weight I found that more guys wanted to go out with me, but in hindsight I realise it was the confidence I got from losing the kilos that made me believe I could get any guy I wanted. And I did. But the relationships wouldn’t last because I’d sabotage them when the kilos crept back and I became afraid they’d break up with me. Then I’d go on binges, packing on the weight and the misery.
The (Sexual) Turning Point
“In 2005, my family encouraged me to enter a ‘Search For a Real Woman’ competition; I thought I was too heavy, but ended up as one of the finalists and have been modelling ever since. The day I did my first lingerie shoot was a turning point. I saw this beautiful, voluptuous, sexy woman in the photos and started worrying less about holding in my tummy during sex and enjoying the experience more.
“I used to worry that guys would be put off by my generous thighs and bum, but now I use those very parts to entice and seduce. It drives men crazy! And I’ve also stopped restricting myself by thinking only thin women can enjoy certain positions or let loose. I understand and appreciate my body, its flexibility and the orgasmic journey it takes me on. Sex has become a lot more fun, crazy, intense and fulfilling for both me and the person I’m with. As soon as I accepted my curves and voluptuousness, I realized I can do or go wherever my imagination takes me.”