Missionary is the Jan Brady of sex positions — dismissed as plain and boring, never picked first, forever in the shadow of flashier poses such as girl on top, from behind and reverse cowgirl. But, as it turns out, it shouldn’t be as it actually allows for a lot of variation, exposes your nerves to a wider range of sensations and is surprisingly orgasm-friendly, says clinical sexologist Leandie Buys.
Which explains why 33 percent of women say missionary is their favourite position, according to a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. (Unsurprisingly, men like it too — being on top lets them control the pace and prolong their orgasm.)
Amp up the experience with these hot new twists on the carnal classic.
Rock The Boat
Missionary gets flack for not allowing for much clitoral contact, but one simple adjustment can remedy that. Experts call it “the coital alignment technique” (aka “the cat”). While he’s on top of you, have him scoot up a little so that the base of his penis is directly aligned with your clitoris, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First. Then, with your legs wrapped around his thighs, press your genitals together so you create pressure and counter-pressure, moving in a gentle rocking motion (as opposed to in and out). Your clitoris will let you know when you’ve got it right.
While he’s on top, draw your knees towards your chest (you can grab the back of your thighs for support) and place one or both of your feet flat on his chest. “Doing so puts the tip of his penis in direct contact with your cervix, a sensation many women find pleasurable,” says Sadie Allison, author of Ride ’Em Cowgirl.
Just because you’re on the bottom doesn’t mean you can’t call the shots. Throw one of your legs over his shoulder while you keep the other one stretched straight on the bed (or bent, with your foot firmly on the mattress). At your own pace, keep switching your legs so that one is over his shoulder and the other is on the bed. The up-and-down motion of your legs creates a pleasurable sweeping sensation over the G-spot zone, says Kerner.
Bring Him To His Knees
Awaken a new set of nerves by tweaking the angle of penetration. “Lie down; have your guy kneel between your legs while sitting back so that his butt is resting on his ankles,” suggests certified sex educator Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook. “He can use the strength of his thighs to push forward and thrust, or grab your hips with his hands to control the pace.”
This position stimulates your lower vaginal wall, which contains nerves that are often neglected during plain missionary. If orgasm still eludes you, grab a vibrator or squeeze lube onto your fingertips and give yourself a hand as he thrusts.
It sounds counter-intuitive, but keeping your legs closed can actually boost your pleasure. Once he’s inside you, bring your legs together (keep them straight) so that his legs are on the outside of yours. Then squeeze your thighs together to create friction against his shaft and your vaginal lips while he grinds (not thrusts). “The entrance to the vagina — namely the outer and inner labia – is packed with nerve endings that are activated by this type of shallow penetration,” says Allison.
You can also reach back and grab your headboard or place your palms against the wall for even more resistance and friction.
Give Yourself Props
The hottest sex toy is sitting right there on your bed. “Place a pillow under your lower back to tilt your vagina upwards,” says Paget. “His penis will hit that top frontal wall where the G-spot is located.” For extra pleasure, try placing your palms on his butt to control the pace and rhythm of movement.
This article was originally published on www.womenshealthmag.com