You’ve mastered the basics of sex. You know where your G-spot is, your favourite vibrating friend is at your bedside and you can debate with your girlfriends the advantages of the reverse cowgirl versus missionary, but now it’s time to take things up a notch. Here are 10 kinky things to try that’ll boost your sex life and give you even more orgasms.
1. Pop-in earplugs
By blocking out the sound of the world, you’re automatically enhancing the sound of your own breathing, so you can home in on your other four senses – especially touch, says Claire Cavanah, co-author of Sex Toys 101.
2. Get at least eight hours
A recent study linked poor sleeping habits to a less-than-stellar sex life. Plus, who wants to romp when they’re exhausted?
3. Nix the marathon
A survey of sex therapists concluded that the optimal duration of sexual intercourse was three to 13 minutes – good news, considering the average Joe lasts only 7.8 minutes. So quit worrying about breaking a record and spend more time on foreplay. You’ll both enjoy it.
4. Play hide and seek
You hide, he seeks. When he finds you, the prize is getting down and dirty wherever you are. “Any kids’ game can be made into a sexy experience,” says Leigh Anderson, author of Games for Grown-ups.
5. Keep your socks on
Or try some CBD. Orgasms jumped 30 per cent in men and women who were chilled out during sex in a study at a Dutch university. Researchers believe the results indicate that the comfier you are, the more likely you’ll be to reach the big O.
6. Switch up the beat
Try a sex toy with different vibrating and pulsating speeds, like the Chorus Couple’s Vibrator, so you can thump or pitter-patter your way to orgasm in addition to getting the usual buzz. With a clitoral stimulator and a smooth curved shaft, the soft silicone surface makes him a smooth talker with a great glide.
7. Assert yourself
“Women are traditionally more submissive, so switching to a more dominant role can break you out of a sex rut,” says Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First. “You don’t have to don leather and wield a whip; just doing something your partner doesn’t expect – like initiating sex as soon as he walks in the door – will make things hotter.”
One example: Stick him up. Instead of scarves, try soft bondage ribbon or tape. It’s easy, safe and painless, with a natural stickiness that keeps it from coming loose.
8. Break out the wine
Researchers at the Santa Maria Annunziata Hospital in Italy found that women who consumed one to two glasses of red wine a day had more sexual desire and natural lubrication than those who didn’t.
9. Hide his razor
A man with a five o’clock shadow is a bigger turn-on than one who’s clean-shaven, according to a study from the UK’s Northumbria University. Researchers believe that women evolved to subconsciously seek out men with masculine features (like stubble) because in caveman days they were more able to protect their cave ladies from danger.
10. Hit the mat
A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that yogis have better sex. Women in the study who began practising yoga reported improvements in levels of arousal and desire, as well as better orgasms. Plus, the increased flexibility will come in handy. Read here for how yoga helps you have better sex.