Giving and receiving head is so much more than just a precursor to the main event. We’ve got six oral sex positions to up your game.
When you feel a strong sexual connection with someone, it’s tempting to tear off their clothes and go at it. But taking time to savour the experience has a big pleasure pay-off. “When you engage your body and mind in bed, you’ll feel more relaxed, connected to your partner and aroused – all of which result in better sex,” says Dr Logan Levkoff, a certified sexuality educator.
By taking your time and being creative, you’ll also avoid the danger of making sex routine – with the same foreplay sequence, same position, same result. That’s where oral sex comes in. Many of us are used to it being a quick detour on the road to full-on sex, but it can be so much more than that. Think of it more as a way to slow things down and connect with your partner. These positions will make playtime anything other than routine. Go on, you cunning linguist.
1. The Elevator
How to: Kneel in front of him. Cover your teeth with your lips and encircle his glans (the tip of his penis) with your mouth. Slowly piston your lips up and down on his shaft, alternating speeds. Occasionally glance up at him. Showing your enthusiasm and enjoyment are enormous factors in his pleasure. Stop to move your tongue over and around his head. Be careful of your teeth, although occasional light nibbling on the less sensitive shaft is enjoyable for many men.
Tip: Place a cup of warm water and an ice cube on the bedside table. When you give oral sex, alternate placing the ice cube then the water in your mouth.
2. Hovering Butterfly
How to: Straddle your partner by placing your knees at their ears. Hold onto the wall for support. While they’re doing their thing, use your fingers to graze your nipples or rub the top of your vulva.
3. One Up
How to: Lie on the edge of the bed with your partner kneeling on the floor in front of you. Raise one of your legs and support it by wrapping your hands around your hamstring just below the knee. With one hip raised, you’ll be able to add some movement to aid their stroking or to help move them to the perfect spot.
4. David Copperfield
How to: Lying down, place a pillow under your hips to tilt your pelvis up. Bend your knees so you can place your feet on your partner’s shoulder blades.
5. Cowgirl 69
How to: When you’re on top in 69, you can control the intensity of oral stimulation on your clitoris by lifting or pressing your pelvis. From this position, it’s easy to work your finger magic on your partner’s perineum. When you’re ready, swap positions.
6. Heir To The Throne
How to: Sit on a chair with your legs wide open. Your guy or girl can take it from there. This is a good position for them either beginning the slow build-up with loose, broad strokes or ending with strong suction. You can easily guide your partner and you’ll get a full view of them between your legs, which can be a major turn on.
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