The Reason Why Your Mom Never Likes Your Boyfriends

by | May 12, 2016 | Sex & Love

By Korin Miller

If you’ve ever wondered why your family isn’t crazy about your boyfriend, science has an answer for you: natural selection.
According to a new study published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences, your mom and sister want you to end up with a guy who’s understanding, responsible, helpful, and sensible while you tend to prefer men who are fun, sexy, and have a sense of humour. Researchers dubbed this the “Juliet effect,” after Shakespeare’s Juliet and her mom, Lady Capulet, who wanted Juliet to marry Paris, a dude from a good family, over Romeo.
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The Sensible Choice

Moms tend to think that “responsible” and “sensible” guys won’t drain the family’s resources, and will help ensure that good, reliable genes get passed on to the grandkids. But, weirdly, sisters get in on the game, too. Why? Scientists found that they also want us to marry a sensible guy, because it can benefit the whole family, including her.
To reach this conclusion, scientists asked 279 women with sisters to rate how important 133 traits were for their own long-term partner, and for their sister’s future mate. For the most part, the traits were the same, but women tended to prefer that their sis opt for the more reliable dude, while they went for the fun, sexy guy.
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Best Guy For You

Scientists admit the whole thing is totally selfish: We want to settle down with a hottie who, genetically speaking, is probably in good health and can transfer attractive genes to future kiddos. But we don’t want to take the chance that we’d have to shell out money, time, or other important resources to take care of our sister’s or daughter’s kids if they choose a hottie over a responsible guy down the road. Yay, family!
Of course, these things aren’t mutually exclusive – plenty of guys are hot and responsible. But if you notice that your sister and mom hate on your significant others for no good reason, maybe play up his sensible side. Can’t hurt, right?
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