If you’re new to the game, it can be quite daunting to buy your first sex toy. There are so many options, it’s hard to know where to start. But whether you’re looking to improve your alone time or add an extra bit of buzz to your couple’s play, there’s a sex toy that will do it. So, we asked the sexperts for some advice on beginner sex toys. Happy shopping!
Why beginner sex toys are the way to go
“With so many misconstrued ideas and stigmas surrounding sex toys and the use thereof, it is understandable that so many people have a fear-based reaction when the idea of using a sex toy is considered or introduced,” explains Brodie Meyer, managing director of Désir, an online adult store. “We’ve found that sex toys not only promote and encourage a healthy sex life between partners but also allow for an entirely unique explorative journey when used during solo play.”
“Understanding what you like or don’t like is not often a journey one may undertake openly with a partner, but experimenting on your own can be a very powerful and liberating exercise and allows you to understand your body in your own time,” she continues. “Once you understand your own likes and dislikes, you are more than likely going to be more confident in directing your intimate experience with your partner.”
Start with a bullet vibrator
For solo play, there are endless options ranging from internal massage to dual massage. With such a wide offering, both can be quite overwhelming when choosing your first-time toy.
“Not everyone enjoys internal stimulation at first, so we suggest starting off slowly and gently by using a simple and user-friendly clitoral massager,” says Meyer. “Designed to stimulate the clitoris, these female-friendly products are anatomically designed to be held comfortably in your hand, allowing you to direct pleasure exactly where you want it.”
This nifty tool has a soft touch but powerful vibes. It’s also small enough to carry basically anywhere.
For a bit of fun, this emoji has 10 different vibe patterns and is waterproof – perfect for bath time.
Discreet and sleek, this nondescript velvety-soft bullet has a quiet motor for “quiet time” and pairs with an app for remote control.
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Next, try a clitorial vibrator
“For all-over labia massage, try a broader-based clitoral massager (with a wider area surface) that covers your entire vaginal area. The broad shape of these massagers makes sure that the entire breadth and width of your wish-bone-shaped nerves are stimulated and often produce far more intense orgasms than that of a smaller pinpoint clitoral massager.
This curved toy sits perfectly with the shape of your groin to cradle you on the go or in the bedroom.
Also curved, this waterproof toy has seven speeds that’s easily adjustable. Plus, it saves your preferred setting and has a travel lock.
This toy offers internal and external options. Put it between your legs and squeeze to increase the vibration. Waterproof, hands-free and intuitive.
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Now, graduate to a rabbit vibrator
“Once you are comfortable with the sensations that an external massager can produce, why not upgrade to a dual-stimulator? This is a vibrator designed to stimulate the internal vaginal walls as well as the clitoral area. With almost 70 percent of women reliant on clitoral massage to experience an orgasm, the dual-stimulating vibrator (like the rabbit) allows you to stimulate your internal and external nerve system at the same time, allowing you to experience deep penetration, external stimulation and powerful orgasms – all at the same time!
This small, beginner-friendly toy allows for dual stimulation. Two motors work at once: the bunny ears go over your clitoris, while the shaft goes inside.
This sophisticated toy adapts to your contours and can be controlled manually or using the app. You can even link it to a Spotify playlist.
Swipe tech allows you to customise the vibrations by swiping left or right. Five patterns and five speeds per pattern offer tons of playtime.
