The benefits of quickie sex are long – and have long been lauded by experts. For one, quickie sex is better than that first cup of coffee in the morning coffee. Quick, steamy and impromptu morning or daytime sex can leave
you feeling energetic. Why? Endorphins, which generally make us feel happy, are released into your body during sex. Better yet, you know what they say about ‘regular sex’ keeping ‘sex therapists’ at bay? That’s because regular
sex reduces stress, improves sleep and boosts your immune system.
One study even found that people who had sex every other day looked younger than their sex-deprived peers. “Quickies can be a good part of your sex life because it helps couples keep some eroticism in the air,” says New York City sex therapist Dr. Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First. According to a 2008 survey carried out by Canadian and U.S. sex therapists, most respondents believed that 7 to 13 minutes was the ‘desirable’ amount of time to have sex, while 3 to 7 minutes was rated as ‘adequate’, and 10 to 30 minutes was considered ‘too long’.
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There are a few reasons to add quickies to your sexual rotation, says Jessica O’Reilly, sex educator and host of the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. One is that they can help you have sex more often. Another is it takes the pressure off of you and your partner to have long-lasting sex, i.e. there’s no need to wait for both your schedules to be clear and the circumstances to allow for the perfect setting (think: rose petals scattered on the sheet accompanied by romantic music in the background). Plus, it can be more exciting than slower sex, especially if you have to sneak around, especially in places where anyone could walk in at any minute, to make it happen.
How To Max Out Your Quickie Sesh
1. Lube it up. It can take women longer than men to build up arousal, Kerner explains, and you might not be able to get wet in the time it takes for you to rip each other’s clothes off. Plus, your options for technique and positions increase the more you’re lubricated, says O’Reilly.
2. Use a vibe. “Sometimes when it comes to orgasms and quickie sex, women can get shortchanged a little bit,” says Kerner. If you know you’re not going to come during a quick romp of just penetrative sex, add your vibrator to the mix to make sure you finish just like your partner, he recommends.
3. Make it a fantasy. “It’s nice to pair quickie sex with some kind of psychological stimulation,” advises Kerner. So, walk up to your partner and whisper in their ear, “I just want to push you up against a wall and do you” or start acting out a fantasy that you’ve both talked about before. “Psychological stimulation is part of what makes a quickie gratifying,” says Kerner.
4. It doesn’t have to be penetrative. Giving your partner a quick BJ, having them go down on you, or doing a little 69 can be “sexy in its own right,” reckons Kerner.
And when the mood strikes, there are some great positions that make it easier to drop your pants and get busy right away.
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Quickie Positions Ahead
1. Quickie Fix
How to do it: Bend at the waist and rest your hands on a piece of furniture or your knees for support. When your partner enters you from behind, have them hold you by the hips and reach around to caress your clitoris for extra stimulation.
Why it slaps: Aptly named, the Quickie Fix is the MVP of anytime, anywhere positions. Plus, the ability to touch yourself takes it to the next level.
2. The Ballet Dancer
How to do it: Stand facing one another and wrap one of your legs around his buttocks or thigh. Use your leg to pull him into you.
Why it slaps: Tight quarters? No problem. Also, if you get tired, he can cradle your leg to ease the pressure.
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3. Heir To The Throne
How to do it: All you have to do is sit on a chair—or bench, counter, overturned bucket in a closet, whatever floats your boat—with your legs spread, and your partner will do all the work.
Why it slaps: This is the ultimate quickie sex position for oral on the go. Plus, it’s all about you so…win-win.
4. The Elevator
How to do it: Kneel in front of him and slowly piston your lips up and down on his shaft, alternating speeds. If your partner is female, this position is super hot for oral, too.
Why it slaps: After he enjoys his turn, he can return the favour with this out-of-the-bedroom oral move.
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5. The Hot Seat
How to do it: Have your partner sit down and back up into them, sitting between their legs. Then, ride back and forth, and control the angle of entry by arching your back and pressing your buttocks.
Why it slaps: You can whip this quickie sex position out pretty much anywhere (anywhere that’s legal, that is).
6. Stairway To Heaven
How to do it: Sit on top and take advantage of the handrail for extra support and lifting leverage.
Why it slaps: A variation of The Hot Seat, this position takes your pleasure to the stairs.
7. Iron Chef
How to do it: This variation of The Ballet Dancer allows you to wrap both your legs around your guy’s waist with the help of a counter or other elevated surface.
Why it slaps: For this quickie sex position, it’s basically like your partner is holding you up—without all that hard work!
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8. Reverse Cowgirl 2.0
How to do it: Sit on top of your partner, facing their feet. Have your partner bend their legs while you grind away. (Note: You can rub up against the base of their leg for added friction.)
Why it slaps: Your partner will get some solid, intense stimulation on the bottom, while you’ll get some serious clitoral action from grinding against them.
9. Twist And Shout
How to do it: Sit on a countertop or bed and twist your legs to one side. Have your partner stay standing and enter you from the side.
Why it slaps: It’s a fun way to mix up your standard on-the-counter quickie sex. Plus, keeping your legs pressed together during this sex position allows for a tighter hold as your partner thrusts.
This article was originally published on www.womenshealthmag.com
